Doaa Hindawi explains the reasons why a child cries at school for the first time and offers solutions
Many mothers are surprised by the
crying of her child when he enters school for the first time, and she does not
know what is the reason for the child’s crying despite the preparation of the
atmosphere for her and the provision of school tools, and she resorts to asking
those around her and enjoys many opinions that may be right or wrong, and she
finds that her child is still crying when he goes. The school without a
positive development, and in the following lines, Doaa Hindawi, a psychological
consultant and special education, explains the most important reasons for
children crying at school and the most common mistakes that mothers make
Reasons why a child cries at school
- If he
is the first child and has feelings of jealousy towards his little brother, as
he keeps imagining his brother sleeping and playing at home and watching
cartoons while he is alone at school and far from his home
- If an adult talks about school and nursery in front of the child, as if school is a way of punishment, this generates negative feelings and a great fear of school
- Bullying
that a child may be exposed to, especially if the child has a weak personality
- The
school was not sufficient to motivate the child in the classroom with
attention, containment, and giving gifts
Keeping
school and nursery away from home
Hindawi stresses the need to know the cause of the child's constant crying, in order to find the appropriate solution, through
Preparing the
child for school, by taking the child to school and talking about it as a place
to meet his friends, read books and play
- It is
preferable if the school applied a day before the start of the school year to
receive and celebrate new students
- It is
preferable for the mother or father to go with the child to school the first
week, as well as during the return
- It is
preferable to choose a nearby nursery or school to quickly go to the child when
needed
Not lying to
the child and explaining that the school is a place for education and meeting
friends, and if the child needs his mother, she will come immediately
During the
first 4 days of school, it is preferable for the child to sit for two to three
hours and not to spend the entire school day
- It is
normal for the first two to three weeks that the child continues to cry and be
considerate of his feelings without ridicule
Not making available school tools such as pens and colored books all the time in front of the child, and informing him that they are only for school time, so that he wants to go and enjoy his tools
It is better
for the child to choose his own school supplies
- It is
possible to bring a gift for the child and give it to the school and inform it
of what distinguishes the child, “whether it is sports, drawing, or memorizing
the Qur’an, for example,” and she tests him with it and rewards him with a
gift, which is what motivates the child and helps him complete his school day
without crying
Kindergarten
Many mothers neglect the custody period despite its importance to the child and its help in preparing him for school, even if his custody is simple and has modest capabilities
Doaa Hindawi, a psychological consultant and special education specialist, indicates that the appropriate age for kindergarten starts from 3 years and is a stage for playing only and knowing colors, letters and animals without reading and writing
Camera surveillance
The child
must be followed up and asked constantly whether he is exposed to any
harassment or not, and if the child is not good at expressing himself, then the
mother must follow up through the nursery school, and it is preferable if the
nursery is equipped with cameras
bullying
- If
the mother discovers that her child is being bullied and harassed by another
child, she must remain calm and attend the two children and try to make them
aware that they are friends and colleagues and they should enjoy and spend a
useful and pleasant time at school without harassment, then the mother will
have addressed the problem of two children, her son and the other child, she
directed his behavior and modified it instead of Revolution and anger
Self care
Self-care. Before the child enters the nursery, the mother must teach him how to take care of himself, such as eating on his own, going to the bathroom on his own, using a pen and a sharpener, and the like
socialites
It must be
explained to the child that he will meet many children and we should not learn
from them bad behaviors and at the same time we should not isolate completely,
but he must be taught how to open up socially through good education for the
child about avoiding bad behavior only and distinguishing between it and the
positive
How to choose a nursery
Doaa Hindawi explained that the nursery should be close to the mother’s workplace. If it is in a fixed place, it is preferable that the nursery be close. If the place of work is not fixed, it is preferable that the nursery be close to the house, so that the child is not affected by changing the nursery every once in a while and moving away from his school and friends and being distracted. mentally and psychologically
- The
presence of cameras in the nursery is necessary to know what is happening to
the child, especially if he cannot express himself,
- The cleanliness of the nursery and the quality of ventilation. It is important that the nursery and its tools are clean and smell indicative of cleanliness rather than unpleasant odors that may be emitted as a result of the absence of hygiene and sterilization
- If the child is aggressive and has hyperactivity, it is important that the nursery official be informed of the child's condition, and the nursery school is scientifically prepared to deal with children with unfamiliar abilities
- To
find out if the nursery will accommodate the child or not, it is possible to
deal with the hosting system for the experiment, and if you find the school
report at the end of the day is good about the child and that it was able to
deal, then you make sure that the nursery and the school are sufficient to deal
with the child, but if you find the school report indicating the existence of
problems With the child, then the mother makes sure that the nursery and school
are not qualified to deal with kindergarten children
In
conclusion, Doaa Hindawi, a psychological and special education consultant,
gave her advice to the kindergarten teachers, saying, "If you are not able
to work, do not do it, especially with children, because they need care,
attention, and very special treatment other than adult children. Whoever does
not have the patience for kindergarten children, then you will wrong yourself
and remove the guilt of a child whose family will leave him." Safety in my
hands
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